I lost....

If you're concerned about mtx, I'm relatively sure he doesn't need or want either of you telling Queen she's acting like a "bitch."

If you must tell Queen how you feel, please do it privately.

 

mtx, I think I understand just as well, if not better than anyone else here.

I was abandoned by my mother and left to be raised by my emotionally abusive father. See, she couldn't bear to be around him herself, so she left her kids with him and ran off to california because it was the farthest she could go to get away from us in florida. No child support. She rarely called and one time she visited us after my father had re-married... an especially cruel and abusive woman (who was later declared insane and committed for life to an institution). When we went to pick my mother up from the airport, I didn't know what she looked like so I didn't recognize her at first.

My mother complained to the athorities about what was happening to us. She reported everything and then went on her merry way back to california while the abuse got much worse, counselors we were required to visit after that promised what we said would not be repeated to our step mother and guess what? they lied. Now this woman would beat the hell out of us at the drop of a hat. Imagine how many weeks she beat the hell out of us for speaking to counselors about her.

Why would someone like me feel it's important for parents to try to be a part of their children's life and to do the best they can at being a parent? I remember the broken heart I had growing up without my mother. I'm a parent now and I love my children.

Being there for your daughter doesn't mean you have to be in her mother's face. It means doing the best you are capable of doing for your daughter. It can mean that you send the child support checks (even though you don't have to) and call on the phone while she's little and write her letters when she is able to read. It means you suck it up and hold your tongue when you're around cathy for the sake of your kid. I don't think you want to leave your daughter alone to be raised by an emotionally disturbed woman so I hope you relish every second of your month with her in December...but then I know you're not swimming to hawaii so I guess you've already bought a ticket to take a vacation for the rest of your life.

 

MTX, you have 5 months to think this through. DO SO! Things are hard and you are not thinking clearly. No matter what you say you are not thinking clearly. Your Ex is cloudying your thoughts, you feel hurt and rejected. You do need to get away and get some R + R and come back with a clear mind and rested body.

When it comes to time to see your child and you decide to see her for the month, pick her up with a friend to act as a buffer from your ex.

There is more than one way to part of your childs life.

Think about it and best of luck.

 

Maybe God wants you to rise to the challenge and be the best father you can be despite the restrictions?

 

Why would you say that? I guess you didn't really read my posts on this thread.

She needs her dad. Even if all you can handle right now is to write letters or call on the phone.

 

The only thing in my life that is more important then life itself are my kids. I would do anything for them - that includes giving up my life for theirs. Suffering when they suffer, hurting when they hurt and most of all loving them when they want it and when they don't.

I couldn't see any situation or circumstance in the world where my kids would or could be better off without me.

 

ah ha!

after a bit of sleuthing, i've found the infamous post. time to celebrate my discovery ahhhhhhhh...

ok, hmmm, now, the situation at hand is indeed a toughy. i have no personal experience into these types of matters. i'm one of those rare people whos parents are still married. the only thing that remotely comes close is my wife and her children from a previous marriage. her kids had very vague memories of their "sperm donor" father. when they reached the teens, he "attempted" to drop by into their lives. at first, it was all good, the "disney dad" syndrome was in full swing. later tho, things turned ugly, as was his nature. put mud on a pig, its still a pig. its pretty sad when kids would rather be with a step-parent than their own biological parent. not really sure what i'm trying to say, other than i took the children under my wing and treated them like people.

as an aside, mtx, when you read the bible, keep in mind, that the old covenant was replaced with the new one, different rules apply. i was at best, an indifferent student when i attending sunday school as a youth. as an adult, im slowly coming to understand parts of the paschal mystery

 

You are so philosophically brilliant when you're drunk! Are you faking your drunkeness? <3

 

i figyerd you where speeking frome pain but ill speek my bit anyway.

well MTX you did make the choice you had a chiled.now you have a reasponsability no one can make you take it but it is yores.we have gon thrue this befor and came to the same ending 99% of us think you have the ability to make a difrens in that lital girls life.you say its yore life but in reality thats no longer true when you fatherd that chiled youre life belongs to her she alredy has yore sole thats why you are in sutch pain and you bringing this up to us proovs it to me.wallow in all the pity you nead but when it is time to take her for the month i think you nead to do it beacus face it youve sead it yoreself life is nothing whithout her .its simpal go back to scool make a beter life for yorself and her then in a cupal of yeres GET primery custady its that simpal . giveing up is NEVER the choice GOD wants you to make.

some of us do realise you come hear and say thees things so we yore internet budy's will yell at you till you do the rite things and not nesaseraly rite for us ..give yore lital girl a BIG hug frome all of us when you have the chance...

 

good words CS

 

Best of luck to you man, the law is pretty harsh