A serious thread

Well coupld words form my infinate well of knowlegde

If you are dating her and she is going through a divorce you can expect all kinds of complications and issues

The situation suck, but the fact that she still calls you to chat or whatever tells me that despite the fact that she says she doesn't want to drag you into it, she still needs someone to talk to.

If you do really care about her I'd hang in there. To me it seems like she needs you just as much as she did but maybe the romantic side of things is just adding to her problems for the moment and she needs a friend right now. I wouldn't give up on her if I like her a lot. Try not to put pressure on her about what or where your relationship is going and instead just try to be there for her needs and problems. Yeah it sucks when you are hurting but you still have to be there for someone else even though they can't be there for you at that time. But that is what love and friendship is about, sacrificing for the other person.

Anyway, just a few quick thoughts of mine. I might be and but I don't pretend to understand women

Hang in there buddy and just drown yourself in T2. Let me know if you need anything else. Hope I helped a little.

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Rayz

 

I am telling you as someone who cares that your treading on dangerous grounds. If it was a bad divorce than you could be putting yourself in the crosshairs of a dangerous situation. Even though it may break your heart, and I know you don't want to hear this, you need to just be her friend right now. Let her come to you and support her in her time of need. She needs a friend right and will remember her friends when she recovers.

It's just a dangerous situation all around. Good luck in whatever you do. Don't expect anything though. Expect nothing and hope for nothing and you shall not be disappointed only happy.

 

Well...I'm not the god of relationship advice...but if I was in that position, I would just let her know I was there for her, and she wouldn't be dragging me into anything if it was helping her...girls like to hear that

 

If you're seriously into this chick, and it sounds like you are, I agree. Hang in there, but hang back, don't push it... let her call the shots for now. You can't do anymore than she's gonna let you do. If it does end up breaking down, there's nothing you can do about it anyway. But if it ends up working out, the fact that you held off while she needed it could pay off big-time.

Send her flowers every now and then. Just to say, 'Thinking of you'.

And in the meantime, do guy stuff. Play lots of Tribes. Go to a 49ers game.... altho they're on the road this weekend. doh. Go to Reno, get smashed.

 

Go to the club and pick up another girl. Don't get into this. I thought about it. Who has the kid?

 

Dude .... Tell her that you care for her a lot and that you want to be with her, but that you respect her wishes to want to be alone right now. Tell her that you will help her with whatever problems whe might have past, present and future, and that if she doesn't want your help right now, that you will still be here when she does. Let her know that she is very important to you and you want to be a part of her life, but that you will always be here for her no matter what happens.

If you can get her to open up to you and explain what might be bothering her, it might be possible for you to help solve the problem.

I've found that it helps to stay back in situations like this and not be too pushy, but let her know that you still care and that you will be here when she needs you.

Args...

 

You've been hit! Your losing hydolics and fuel is low! EJECT! EJECT! EJECT!

 

wow. for once, mtx says something intelligent. j/k. but in all seriousness, he's right.

that happened to me with my ex... she told me she was mildly depressed and I wanted to help, but she said the exact same thing, that I couldn't. I told her I'd always be there and if she needed anyone to talk to, to just call me.
Little did I realize at that time, her problem was that someone came back into her life and our relationship was pretty much over. I'm just speculating, bit I'm pretty sure that's what happened.

Just hang in there. Be there for her.

 

She cares about you Dane. She said that she is unwilling to get you involved and wants to do it alone. That means that she wants you intact when she figures out what she needs. Going through a divorce will make her want space, a little freedom that she did not have before. She will also want a confidant, a person to talk to. Preferably someone not involved (you). It seems that she is protecting you for her own good. She mentioned that she wants to do it alone...she is not. You are there to talk to, and she knows that. Stay, listen, be there for her. She needs it, and it will be good in the long run. If she gets in real trouble, she knows that you are there for her. Be strong, be patient, and be there.

My 2 cents, take it if you wish

 

Can we talk about something else now

You don't need to think about all the drama it'll make you